June 2, 2010

Acknowledging Injustice

The day Proposition 8 was passed in California was the one time that I truly felt let down by my state; I couldn't believe that we would allow such a giant step backward.  It is equally mind boggling how, a year-and-a-half later, the law is still in tact.  I know that one day, hopefully soon, we will be able to look back and wonder how the majority was so closed-minded and selfish.  But I digress.

The point of this post is not to spark a debate, but to share how, on our wedding day, we brought to light an issue for which both Mr. Doxie and I are passionate.  I know that it isn't uncommon in the wedding world for couples to recognize how unjust laws against same-sex marriages are.  It's a bit of a different story, however, in the conservative area where our wedding was located.  We honestly weren't sure how the gesture would be received among our guest list.  We wanted to do something that would be prominent enough for our guests to take notice, but still subtle.  As sad as it is to admit it, I know that we had guests in attendance who likely feel as strongly against same-sex marriage as I do in support of it.

In the end, we decided to go the same route as the Sprinkles and make white knots for our guests to wear and take home. 
I ordered a small ceramic heart bowl from RedHotPottery on Etsy, MOH Erin cut and tied the ribbon and I made the sign.

Everyone should have the right to tie the knot

While we will forever look upon this day with great joy, we cannot help but feel sadness for our friends and loved ones who, under current legislation have had their right to marry stripped away.

The White Knot is a symbol of marriage equality.  Regardless of your orientation, please wear this knot to show your support for basic human rights.  We hope that one day soon, everyone will have the chance to experience the love and happiness of their wedding day.

We believe in marriage equality

We set up the white knots and sign on our welcome table along with our guestbook and programs so that guests would see it and take one if they felt so inclined.  Photo was taken by MOH Erin while we were setting up the morning of.

Though most of our guests didn't take a knot, I'm okay with that.  I know they were noticed and I appreciate that some people did choose to wear one.  I think it was the perfect gesture to acknowledge something that is important to us without offending those who disagree.

Have you decided to incorporate something into your wedding that may be controversial?  How did you handle it?

1 comment:

  1. Brilliant idea! I actually have a white knot pinned up by my desk at work. Most people have no idea what it is for, but when someone does realize I enjoy the hopeful look we give each other. Someday.